Holiday Blues

When depression starts affecting your significant relationships, it's time to seek help. Especially if that depression is worse during the holiday season. And if you think your depression doesn't affect those who love you, think again.

I grew up as the child (mostly teen years) of a depressed parent who pulled something every holiday. Got to spent many Christmases by the tree alone, wondering what was going to happen next and sometimes afraid to laugh or feel the magic of the holidays because it would only anger or depress the parent more. And then of course the other parent would be too busy trying to comfort the depressed one to really be part of any festivities. I still get a twinge in my gut I hate every holiday.

So if you are depressed, do your kids and significant other a favor and try to do something about it. For your own quality of life, as well as your loved ones'. The holiday season is a time to reflect on the gifts you have, not those you might get.

Sometimes, in this economy or in an unhappy situation, it's difficult, if not impossible, to really appreciate the things that are good or those who want to enjoy the season with you and spend time with you.

Clinical depression can be selfish and we grow too focused on ourselves. But if you look hard enough you'll see something or someone good in your life. Maybe even some magic. So don't deprive others or yourself of the experience. Get help or let someone you trust help. Chances are they want nothing more for Christmas than to see you happy and have the gift of your time and presence...